this one is to take cockiness to the next level - confidence. when a single girl knows how to change the game.
to get noticed. In a big crowd, look for someone attractive. don't stare. glance. sneak a peek.
story. sitting in church, listening to the speaker, looking around at all the new faces that have arrived this summer. spotted. attractive tall blonde. lucky for me I was able to be looking at the speaker, but have this young fellow in my peripherals. and as all young men do in a singles ward, he started to look around. looked in his general direction. key, not at him. he looked just past me. made my quick look for eye contact. smile. some would be shy with the smile. some would say it is a necessity to be shy about the smile. the real trick is to give him a real smile. one of confidence. it will throw the fellow off. it did. but there was a return smile.
done. noticed.
later.
second church meeting. positioning. find a place to sit in front of the fellow.
listen to the entire meeting. if so inclined volunteer an answer once. just enough to say that shyness isn't there, but also not too much to become 'that person' who takes over the spotlight. unattractive. it doesn't hurt to steal one slightly obvious look at the fellow.
meeting over. sit there. letting others stand up first. sit there confidently. in a sense of "I'm comfortable where I am at, I'll stand up when I want to."
the fellow lingering behind. naturally.
stood up went to walk away but a quick "hi my name is the fellow" (name chanced for anonymity) some kind words of small talk were exchanged then the "you should really start coming to the ward activities. I'll look for you"
success.
game time. no good game butt spanking though. keeping it pg here.
combined singles ward church activity. my playing ground. look dangerously gorgeous. the rest will be easy. don't single any guy out let them single you out. it will happen.
first one. or first two in all technicality. known them once or twice before. conversation was filled with snarky quips and dull responses. one hates women apparently, great way to get in the good graces of a beautiful girl.
the activity started. participate. legitimately put in effort to participate. migrate back to he pavilion where the cute, non-participators are. stand on a table. gotten noticed yet?
five seconds. red came up to me and started with "I know you from somewhere" cute start.
a soccer ball was an easy trick. stolen. soccer boy wanted his ball back. again success.
getting a root beer float was a good choice. someone asking me if I liked the melted ice cream. meh. then I went back for seconds. he asked again.
the fellow. said hi. a hi was replied. then a see ya at church.
leaving finally. "hey has anyone told you that you look like carly rae jepson?"
I don't want to answer that. but it was a nice simple conversation.
at my car. a boy stopped me. a boy that has been watching all my interactions. he said I had skill. shh...
what I'm getting at is the fact that I didn't sit still, I became interesting. people wanted to talk to me, not just because they found an attraction there, but because I was open to the interactions. half the battle of meeting new people and getting a lame or witty line from them is moving around. be somewhere noticeable. give them opportunity. they will take it.
